“You’re Everything I’ve Been Looking For…” — After Two Conversations
It sounds like a dream, doesn’t it?
He’s telling you you’re special, different, the most incredible woman he’s ever talked to.
He’s talking about your future—your kids, your wedding, your shared life—before you’ve even met for coffee.
At first, it feels exciting.
But deep down, a whisper of doubt grows louder:
How can he know that already?
When Affection Feels Like a Tidal Wave
Some people mistake intensity for intimacy.
But love isn’t supposed to feel like you’re being swept off your feet with no chance to breathe.
If he’s:
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Flooding you with attention
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Pushing for exclusivity early
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Claiming “you’re the one” within days
…he might not be falling for you, but for the fantasy of you.
True connection is built, not declared.
Love Bombing vs. Real Chemistry
Love bombing is when someone showers you with over-the-top praise, gifts, and declarations to create quick emotional dependence.
The moment you set boundaries or take a step back, the affection often flips—into guilt-tripping, withdrawal, or even anger.
Real chemistry isn’t just intense—it’s consistent. It gives you room to breathe and grow.
It doesn’t try to own you. It tries to understand you.
Ask Yourself:
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Do I feel safe to slow down?
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Is this person open to me setting the pace?
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Do I feel seen for who I am—or who they want me to be?
If you feel like you’re on a high-speed train you didn’t agree to board, it’s okay to pull the brakes.
You don’t owe anyone immediate closeness.
You’re allowed to say, “Let’s take our time.”
You’re Not Cold—You’re Conscious
Wanting space to build trust doesn’t make you “distant.” It makes you grounded.
Let romance bloom slowly. The right person won’t just chase connection—they’ll honor your rhythm.
So when someone comes on too strong too fast, ask yourself if it’s love… or a rush to control the story.
Because real love doesn’t drown you. It meets you at the surface—and invites you to dive deeper, together.
