It All Felt So Intense… So Fast
You just matched, and within 48 hours he’s calling you babe.
He wants to FaceTime every night.
He’s talking about planning a trip together, how you’re “not like the others,” how he’s “never felt this way before.”
It’s exciting, yes. But also—overwhelming. You go from flattered to confused.
Why does it feel like you’ve been swept off your feet… but something feels slightly off?
Let’s pause. Because this is more common than you think—and it’s worth unpacking.
When Intensity Replaces Intimacy
Some people use rapid connection as a tool—not a truth. Instead of taking time to know you, they project fantasy onto you. You’re not being truly seen—you’re being idealized.
That dopamine hit from constant attention can feel amazing at first. But real intimacy grows slowly. If you skip the foundation, everything else becomes shaky.
Love Bombing vs. Genuine Interest
Here’s how to tell the difference:
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Love bombing feels overwhelming, like a flood.
“I’ve never felt this before,” “You’re perfect,” “Let’s meet this weekend and spend all our time together.” -
Genuine interest feels grounding.
“I really enjoy talking to you,” “I’d love to learn more about you,” “Let’s plan something when it feels right.”
The first moves fast because it’s about them. The second moves intentionally because it’s about you both.
If You Feel Rushed, You Can Slow It Down
You’re allowed to say:
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“I’m enjoying this, but I like to take things slow.”
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“Can we get to know each other more before we talk about trips or big plans?”
A healthy person won’t guilt you for wanting time—they’ll respect it. If someone gets annoyed or tries to manipulate you into speeding up, that’s your sign.
Your Pace Is Not a Problem
Many women are told they’re “too cautious” or “hard to get” if they don’t jump headfirst. Ignore that noise.
You’re not being “difficult.” You’re being discerning. That’s emotional maturity—not hesitation.
Conclusion: Keep Your Power in the Pace
It’s okay to feel thrilled when someone seems into you. But don’t let excitement override your instincts. You don’t need to match someone else’s speed to be worthy of love.
The right person won’t rush you. They’ll want to discover you slowly, layer by layer—not consume you in one go.
Fast is fun, but steady is real.
