It’s Okay If It Feels Weird at First
We don’t talk enough about how clumsy sex can feel—especially when you’re trying something new.
One leg up, your hair in your face, the sheets bunched awkwardly under your knees, and you’re wondering:
Is this even sexy?
Here’s a secret: the most erotic moments aren’t always the ones that look perfect.
They’re the ones where you laugh, breathe, adjust, and stay present anyway.
Curiosity Over Performance
You don’t have to know exactly what you’re doing.
You don’t have to love every new position.
And you definitely don’t need to be flexible like a yoga teacher.
Instead, try this:
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Approach new positions like an experiment, not a performance.
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Let yourself giggle if it feels awkward.
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Ask your partner, “Can we shift a little?” or “Does this feel good for you too?”
Curiosity is sexy. And honest communication is hotter than any magazine pose.
Listen to Your Body—Not the Pressure
Just because something looks erotic doesn’t mean it will feel erotic for you.
And just because someone else loves a position doesn’t mean it’s your thing.
Tune in to:
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Where you feel tension
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What angles give you more sensation
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Whether you’re breathing easily
If your hips are straining, your arms are shaking, or you’re too focused on how you look—pause.
Your pleasure matters more than the pose.
Make New Feel Familiar
Trying a new position doesn’t have to be wild or extreme.
It can be something as simple as:
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Turning slightly to the side
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Raising a pillow under your hips
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Shifting your legs into a different rhythm
The key is to explore slowly—and then build from there.
Familiarity comes with repetition, comfort, and trust—not with forcing a fantasy.
It’s Sexy to Say What You Need
Want to stop? Want to change angles? Want more support under your body?
Say it.
There’s nothing sexier than a woman who feels empowered to shape her experience.
Your voice leads to better sex—every single time.
Pleasure Lives in the Unscripted Moments
The best sex isn’t a choreographed routine—it’s alive.
It includes sweat, shifting, tangled limbs, whispered adjustments, and laughter.
So next time you try something new and it doesn’t feel perfect—good.
That means you’re exploring.
That means you’re present.
And that… is everything.
